This is my first ever blog! Those of you who know me will have witnessed my bungling attempts at using audio visual equipment when giving lectures or have seen the look of panic on my face when my blackberry freezes (which it’s doing a lot of these days) but I have decided I do want to connect with people and get some feedback and I’m told this is the way to do it, so here goes!
At least once a day I get into my car after doing a home visit and I feel sad. Sad for the people I have seen that they are so lacking in confidence about their ability to look after their own baby. Why is it that new parents do not trust their own instincts? Please tell me what you think? I see so many homes with baby advice books piled high beside the crib, so many tired and disappointed mums telling me they are failing and so many dads wanting to outsource “the problem”. Yes, it’s always good to read a little around any new task but caring for a baby is not comparable to studying for a degree or using the computer (technology again) or planning a journey. Confidence grows as you connect with your baby; it comes from the heart; it comes from handling and touching and kissing and smelling; it comes from trying a bit of this and a bit of that; from laughing at mistakes and asking your mates or your mum or ONE expert for suggestions. It comes from women being honest with each other about how hard it is at the start to know what the baby wants; about how tired they feel all the time; about how their nipples hurt; about how they are grumpy with their husband. It comes with men supporting each other and showing empathy.
But most of all confidence comes from learning to read your own baby, day by day.